What is Parenting? Very simple, open Google & you will find thousands of articles. Among them I like this definition the most as it seems very practical:
Parenting is the ultimate long-term investment. Be prepared to put far more into it than you get out of it, at least for some time.
As per definition, it’s seriously a long-term investment as such you spend ¼ of your living life to raise your child as he/she will provide safety when you became old.
But as such we all know we have to put the best efforts not just for safety but to have a good life for both- Parents & Children. We actually select the best parenting method which suits best for us.
Techniques are applied to Machines but we are not a machine. Humans are complex & variant. We can’t fix one procedure for one particular result. As such from my view, there is no single method to follow & all are applicable to some extent.
Here, I try to list 10 Most Effective Parenting Tips as per my own experiences. Let’s check out how much effective they are for you.
10 Best ways of effective parenting
1. Nothing is Perfect
Neither You nor Your Child is perfect. Accept them with their weaknesses. Every child is not so good in a study so try to channelize his/her energy into other activity like Games, Arts, and Competitions.
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2. Only compare when you are compatible.
New generation kids would not bend down to their knees easily. You can’t taunt about their score if you didn’t score well at your School. Make some acceptable standards for your kid.
3. Convert Comparison into Competition
DO compare but for enhancing his/her hidden talent. Make them aware of competition but let’s not scare them. Everyone find a space for his feet on this land. Build a competitive environment by appraising your kid on his smallest accomplishment (You can give his favorite chocolate for a neat Handwriting for example).
4. Meet Your Child
One must do this thing. 24 hrs you can watch your children, watch them closely, meet the actual one, not your expected one. If you are Scholar than your child may not be, he may be good in Music.
Most of the Parents choose their child’s activity as they have to show off. I noticed Parents sending their kids to various classes which are not at all interesting for them. Nowadays Being Odd is the greatest accomplishment so if your child wants to play Football instead of Cricket, Let him do it.
5. Make a Routine
Create a routine like Playing with your kids every day for 15 minutes. You can make your bedtime routine like talking to them for 10 minutes. before sleeping. Your child will discuss more at this time. This routine will make a special bond & fill the gap of communication. Expensive Toys or Outdoor traveling will not impact as much this.
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6. Healing Process
When you spend time with your child you will find something common which you can cheer up together. Like Video Games, Taking Selfies, Dancing, anything… You can catch moments where you can give them a warm hug or a sweet kiss. This is the best healing process. No matter how old your child will be, your gentle touch makes them feel better.
7. No More Extra Buttering
Some Parents take their children as small wonder, always keep appraising them it’s called buttering.
You don’t have to say your child how bad he is, even you don’t have to suppress a wrong image of his own. This is a dangerous thing. Being overprotective is the biggest drawback of your extra love.
Everything in limit is acceptable.
8. Do It Yourself
I saw many parents pick up their child’s bag even when it has the only lunchbox or barely one or two books. Why ??? Will you pick their bags up to class 12??? Let them do their work by themselves and teach them lessons of self discipline.
Generally, we like it when our child is always around us for each of his little work. We want importance and we want to be parents, who are always just a call away as like some santa.
You will pamper them up to what level; an extra glass of milk will not make them strong. Let them pack their bags, arrange their toys, clean their room, which actually grooms them.
9. Positive punishments
You must say NO when you have to. I will agree for positive punishment. I know people have unpopular opinion on this but you must undersand the core value of this concept. You can read more about positive punishment here.
We actually come into action when he/she is a teenager. You want to control them when they want to fly! That creates a bigger mess. Apparently, you should know the time to be rude or liberal.
10. Find a Secret Santa
There is always one person to whom your child shares secretly. Find his/her secret Santa; it may be his grandparents, best friend, a simple diary, or a God. Mostly your child’s secret Santa is his/her Best Friend.
Make a good relationship with your child’s friends, don’t interrupt them.
Sometimes your child’s secret Santa do magic for you (convey your true feeling & worries).
You may not select perfect way of parenting method, you have to choose the one.
This is a small list of easiest parenting tips. So you choose which one is appropriate for your child. There is no one perfect method.
You can also suggest your thoughts about Parenting in the comment section below.
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Shilpa
Thanks manali
Meaghan
Great post! Especially the be rude when necessary one. Sometimes it’s hard but it’s required. Your a parent not a friend and that’s a responsibility. As long as it’s reasonable and balanced with love, it’s discipline is the most important thing you can do for them.
Arti Yadav
Yeah some people taking it negatively but it’s really applicable to be rude sometime…Parents have unconditional love for their kids but there should be a limit on everything…Keep Reading & Supporting us…
Ajay chander
Good and appreciative , it will be helpful for me in future after marriage
Arti Yadav
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Rawlings
this is a wonderful and fantastic post for parenting a child
Arti Yadav
Thanks a lot..as I suggested there can be more than one ways for effective parenting so we have to choose…keep reading & suggesting!!!
Arti Yadav
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Neow
This is very useful. I think it even applies for me as a teacher
Arti Yadav
A teacher is just like a Parents…though they are not so closed definitely they have a great impact on them…Teachers are the character builders for kids… It’s too good to see that you just read it & relate that into your profession…Keep Reading & Supporting us…
Angie
Thanks! This is a great post
Arti Yadav
Always welcome!!!Keep Reading & Supporting us…
Nandita Gupta
I don’t agree to being rude but everything else is spot on! I would much rather use the word like being “firm” and not being “rude”. You can’t be rude to your children just like you can’t be rude to your parents or your peers.
Arti Yadav
Being rude doesn’t mean aggresive or physically abuse. Most of the parents take side even though their kids are in fault. If my kids slap someone without a reason I will do same to them just to teach them a lesson, what’s the feeling you get if soneone beat you. I will be happy if they call me a Hitlor only & only if its for their betterment. Thanks for writing your views on same.?
Sapna Krishnan
While I agree to most of what you have said, I am going to be honest and say, being firm and saying no is different from being rude. And no, there is no need to beat a child to drive your point home. As an adult, if someone dint get what we are trying to say, we do not slap them for a different opinion. Similarly, we don’t hit a child.
Arti Yadav
Being honest is the only reason why I write slap/rude, I must know it this will not like by many people. But its reality a truth, there are many youngsters who will happily share their stories how they are beaten up by their parents on their misbehave?. But the problem is most of us read the sad incidents on parenting like how someone’s father pushed him to go for Science but he wants to go in Arts. There are some good examples but they are not so popular enough to discuss.
Arva Bhavnagarwala
This is a good article, except that I feel we should not hit the child. Being strict is fine, but no physical abuse
Arti Yadav
I think you will recall as rude in your child’s eye when you become strict. Most of time we want to control the child when he/she can think, in childhood you are responsible to make understand the situation, you control them to make them good not to rule over.
Ki
I disagree with the being rude or slapping. Children are people and they don’t deserve verbal or physical abuse especially when they are so new to this world and still learning.
Arti Yadav
This reply is for all who disagree on being rude point. I will give you two option which film you liked most 1) Dangal 2) Taare Zammen Par. My answer is Dangal & that’s what I written here. I hope you remember Aamir khan slaped his daughter in one scene what his daughter’s friend told her, he slap you because he cares, he want to make you something. Everybody has own point of you there is nothing in this world which is 100% right or wrong. I just love you share your honest opinion.
Mallory Mercer
Great tips for parents! Another tip could be making sure your children know about social media and the internet, and the best practices of it
Arti Yadav
That’s a great tip, Mallory… will surely write about it… nowadays social media plays a vital role in character build-up of your child giving knowledge of its pros & cons is essential.
Elise Ho
I am totally behind several of your tips. Parenting is about being loving but it is also about so much more.
Arti Yadav
Absolutely… you are the creator of little one’s whole life…Parents are role model for their children..Keep writing to us.
Princy Khurana
wow, I love these tips. so practical and doable. enjoyed it thoroughly
Arti Yadav
Thanks…Parenting is such a complex matter but we try to make a list of 10 tips which can help you to make your child a better person…Keep Reading!!!
Sarah
Parenting isn’t an easy job but I love it! Great tips 🙂
Ozum | Mama Mingo
I definitely share the same feelings with most of the people who commented on “being rude” and “slapping your kid” statements. Even though I understand what you are trying to say, I don’t agree with how you are saying it. Of course a parent should be strict with their kids from time to time, have rules and set boundaries, so the kids know that they can’t misbehave and get away with it. There are many ways a parent can accomplish these without laying a hand on a child. An adult should never be allowed to hit a child, especially a young one, who obviously does not have enough power to protect themselves and fight back.